waldosia
n. a condition characterized by scanning faces in a crowd looking for a specific person who would have no reason to be there, which is your brain’s way of checking to see whether they’re still in your life, subconsciously patting its emotional pockets before it leaves for the day.
sonder
n. the realization that each random passerby is living a life as vivid and complex as your own—populated with their own ambitions, friends, routines, worries and inherited craziness—an epic story that continues invisibly around you like an anthill sprawling deep underground, with elaborate passageways to thousands of other lives that you’ll never know existed, in which you might appear only once, as an extra sipping coffee in the background, as a blur of traffic passing on the highway, as a lighted window at dusk.
“open my heart and fill it with dirt the filth from this forest is better than you “
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im sympathetic to people’s desire not to talk about stuff. the human is very sensitive, and we’ve got a lot on our plate, all of us. the capacity to talk honestly and with perspective and calm about very personal issue is not going to be in everyones remit. there are some amazing people i know who you just couldn’t go near with these kinds of topics. they’re not going to talk to you about their love life, and they’re not going to speculate on the meaning of life, and maybe that doesn’t matter. there are lots of ways to live that don’t involve introspection or even high degrees of self knowledge or experience. however there’s no doubt that, generally, theres an improvement in peoples level of satisfaction and fulfilment if they are able to introspect and to do that very difficult work of taking stock of their lives, their family upbringing, the forces that shape them, the drives that make them do what they do. the more people are able to get a handle on some of these things, the better able they are to control their lives. but its not for nothing that weve got this very strong impulse to repress, to deny, to block thought, to head for the television, to head for a run, to take drugs, to immerse ourselves in distraction. a lot of this stuff is too difficult to think about, so im sympathetic to that. personally, my life is about trying to raise the level of knowledge and self introspection.
why buy many cards for different occasions if you can have an “One Card for All Occasions Stamp”? it saves time, money and a headache.
you asked for a secret and at the time i told you i dont keep secrets from you or have any. actually that’s my secret, i can’t even talk about you properly to anybody because i don’t want any more people to know how wonderful you are.
